What do you think
would happen if the idle words you speak on a daily basis actually came to
life? Remember when you were a kid and
said, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”? Didn’t you find out later in life how much words
can in fact actually hurt you? I think
at times I’d rather take a beating with sticks than to be berated with words.
Are you aware of
the words which pop out of your mouth without your thinking too much about
them? What kinds of things to you say
about yourself, or if you’re a parent to your children? We actually believe what we say more than
what anyone else says about us, unless it is our parents.
Words are powerful;
they can create and they can destroy. If
you actually got what you said quickly, I think we would really put a watch
over our lips. For instance, if you
said, “its cold outside today, I’ll probably catch a bad cold.” And before you went home you were sneezing,
coughing and feeling like crap you would agree with me how important words are.
Yet what happens is
words don’t usually manifest themselves this quickly, so you don’t see the
correlation about what you are saying, and what you are getting coincide. The words you say each day are like seeds
being planted, and in due time when it comes harvest time, you will see the
crop they have produced in your life.
And when it comes
to the words you say about your children, this can be devastating for
them. Children come into this world not
knowing anything, and it is up to their parents to teach them all the things
they need to know. Yet so many parents
I’ve seen say the most horrible things to their children. Things like; you’ll never amount to anything,
quit being so stupid, what’s wrong with you, etc. When the person who holds the most influence
in your life tells you all the things you can’t do, or will never be, you will
begin to believe it.
A friend of mine
was asked to counsel a teenage boy, because his parents didn’t know what to do
with him. He tells the story about how
the parents brought the boy to his office, saying, “We’re going to the mall,
and will be back in an hour; fix him.”
After they left, he looked at the boy and said, “Do you want a Pepsi?”
and then they talked about sports and school until the parents returned.
When they returned,
he met with the parents separately for a few minutes and the dad asked, “What’s
wrong with my boy, why’s he an idiot?”
To which my friend replied, “Your son thinks like an idiot because he
feeds on idiotic stuff. The things you
say about him, and to him are doing more damage than good. If you want him to do better, then help him
to think better by encouraging him and belittling him.”
I’m pretty sure
this wasn’t what the man wanted to hear, but it is true. If you call your kid an idiot, and then he
does idiotic things, who’s to blame here?
You’re call to do what the Bible refers to as calling those things which be
not, as though they were. Yeah, but
isn’t that lying Dave? No, it is calling
forth what your kid truly is; you just haven’t seen the manifestation of it
yet.
Remember, your kids
don’t know anything when they’re born, it’s up to you to teach them, and
calling them stupid and idiot won’t help.
Begin telling them who they are in Christ, and what they can do in Him. At first you may not see it, but if you
continue and be intentional about it, before long your child will grow into an
awesome person.
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